The topic of Custody is often filled with issues and confusion. Most parties believe custody has to be filed after the Divorce has been officially documented. That is not always the case. You can obtain a court order for custody when you are separated but not divorcing, when you are divorcing, or when a paternity or legitimization suit has been filed.
In Texas, “custody” or conservatorship is a term that is used to define the rights each parent will exercise for the benefit of the children and specify who will make certain decisions on their behalf. This is completely different from possession of the child, which is, an agreement or a decision as to what times the children will spend with each parent.
Except in extreme circumstances, which must be discussed with an attorney, each party will have certain legal rights as a parent. The legal rights each parent has does not determine how much time that the parent will have with the child. Some legal rights belong to both parents at all times (such as the right to consult with the child’s school or doctors); some legal rights belong to both parents and apply when the child is with them (such as the right to discipline the child or provide emergency medical care); and some legal rights will be given to only one parent (such as the right to say where the child will live or to consent to surgery that is not an emergency.)
In some cases the court may determine where the child will live (i.e., Harris County) or what school the child will attend.